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Is Bullying becoming "overused"?
|Date:|| Wed, 10-Oct-2012 4:47:09 AM PDT |
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But the story with the news anchor who received a letter telling her that her weight gain made her a poor example for younger viewer really got me thinking.
The anchor referred to the incident as Bullying and she's done some national media discussing this.
Then there's the case where a WWF wrestler ripped up a boy's sign (which was cheering for the other wrestler in the match) on TV as part of the whole act. The mother of that boy is outraged, said the wrestler mader her son cry and that her son was a victim of Bullying.
Which also got me thinking...are we starting to lump any mean/idiot behavior into Bullying?
I don't feel as though the news anchor was bullied. The guy was rude and disrespectful, sure. Did it hurt her feelings? Of course.
But for it to be Bullying there has to be that lack of power. The victim feels powerless, scared, overwhelmed, etc. HELPLESS. Kids literally kill themselves because they sense no way out or no one to help them.
To lump her experiences in with those of people who really have been bullied is really diluting the water. There are people at work who are bullied (I think of a SZers I really like and some of this person's experiences at work...and this person had no recourse. Just had to take the incessant bullying he/she was a victim of). That in NO WAY compares to this newscaster who had the full support of coworkers, station managers and friends/family. *She* had the power and the means to handle an unpleasant situation.
Just because someone is mean to you doesn't make it bullying.
I think the same holds true for the little boy at the wresting match. The offending wrestler was playing a part in a televised match. He's the "bad guy" and is supposed to interact with fans, etc. He took the boy's sign and ripped it up as a way to make the crowd react. The boy (8 years old) started to cry.
Was it a dick move on the part of the wrestler? Well, he probably shouldn't have taken a kid's sign, LOL. But was that kid really bullied? Of course not! He was with his Mom at a live event where these wrestlers are putting on a show.
I just find it frustrating that Bullying is becoming the new catch-all. If someone treats you poorly then it's bullying. And Bullying is a hot national topic right now so some people are hopping on the bandwagon when they really don't belong there.
My oldest son was bullied in Middle School. It was truly and sincerely one of the worst experiences of our lives (and our entire family was affected). Thankfully we switched schools and he's doing so well now...we are so lucky.
But bullying is such a serious and devestating thing to be a victim of; it's not something that should be tossed around lightly. If every bad behavior gets put under the Bullying umbrella, people will become desensitized to the reality of what victims of true bullying face every day.
- What an interesting post! - SDL - 13-Oct-2012 8:14 PM
- No. "Bullying" is the nice term for some types of inappropriate social behavior - Justathot - 11-Oct-2012 8:01 AM
Interesting. - StarryDreamer - 11-Oct-2012 5:01 AM
She was NOT bullying him. He was attempting to SHAME her for her body. - slacker - 11-Oct-2012 7:13 AM
To me she is a bully. And being hugely overweight is a health issue. - carolann - 11-Oct-2012 1:55 PM
- Yeah. You don't write a REPORTER who you don't know personally. - K_SingingASong - 13-Oct-2012 4:45 PM
- My mistake. I thought she'd mentioned his name - StarryDreamer - 11-Oct-2012 12:46 PM
- Word to this whole post, especially this. - Erica24 - 11-Oct-2012 7:29 AM
- To me she is a bully. And being hugely overweight is a health issue. - carolann - 11-Oct-2012 1:55 PM
- I saw an interview with the news anchor & she said this guy had written more - LuvMyGermanShepherds - 11-Oct-2012 6:28 AM
IA that she was bully. And I don't consider what he wrote her hate mail. - carolann - 11-Oct-2012 6:12 AM
- She wasn't a bully. She wasn't nasty either & she didn't mention - LuvMyGermanShepherds - 11-Oct-2012 6:30 AM
- She was NOT bullying him. He was attempting to SHAME her for her body. - slacker - 11-Oct-2012 7:13 AM
- I think there's a difference between an insult and bullying. - K_SingingASong - 10-Oct-2012 11:04 PM
- If a child is being harassed enough at school or on a bus that they - LuvMyGermanShepherds - 10-Oct-2012 12:59 PM
- This kid shouldn't have been at a pro-wrestling event. - sydneylove - 10-Oct-2012 11:28 AM
I think it's a fine line... Is it sometimes just someone - RachelElisabeth - 10-Oct-2012 11:02 AM
From what I recall, the email wasn't even really mean - if she did - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 11:25 AM
She's a weather person, not a reporter/anchor. Sh doesn't read any - ladyday - 10-Oct-2012 1:16 PM
- Regardless those types of stories are read on the same news that she - carolann - 11-Oct-2012 6:14 AM
- She's a weather person, not a reporter/anchor. Sh doesn't read any - ladyday - 10-Oct-2012 1:16 PM
- From what I recall, the email wasn't even really mean - if she did - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 11:25 AM
I don't know if it's "overused," but it's funny how no one calls the U.S. for - sonnyslady - 10-Oct-2012 10:07 AM
And this is what I find distracting. - Antigone - 10-Oct-2012 10:56 AM
Yep, and everyday a little black boy is getting "bullied" by some cop because of - sonnyslady - 10-Oct-2012 11:15 AM
This is not a question of which victim's suffering is more valuable. - Antigone - 10-Oct-2012 11:52 AM
- That is where it starts... but I do think that - RachelElisabeth - 10-Oct-2012 1:25 PM
- Hey, I agree with everything you just said in this post. The other one, well, - sonnyslady - 10-Oct-2012 11:56 AM
- This is not a question of which victim's suffering is more valuable. - Antigone - 10-Oct-2012 11:52 AM
- Yep, and everyday a little black boy is getting "bullied" by some cop because of - sonnyslady - 10-Oct-2012 11:15 AM
OMG - WHAT?!?!?!?! - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 10:18 AM
Re: OMG - WHAT?!?!?!?! - PD - 10-Oct-2012 10:40 AM
No... what she said is that - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 10:51 AM
Perhaps they're referring to these kinds of incidents. - PD - 10-Oct-2012 4:09 PM
Or this one - Holman - 10-Oct-2012 4:36 PM
That is an act of hatred, violence and racism. - LM - 10-Oct-2012 5:16 PM
exactly. Brutality and abuse of power also. But not bullying. EOM - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 5:46 PM
But it's systematic. It happens over and over again. It may not be always - Holman - 10-Oct-2012 7:26 PM
- I see what you're saying - but I see them as 2 separate issues. - LM - 10-Oct-2012 7:30 PM
- But it's systematic. It happens over and over again. It may not be always - Holman - 10-Oct-2012 7:26 PM
- exactly. Brutality and abuse of power also. But not bullying. EOM - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 5:46 PM
- Yes, this type of crap. Three grown men beating up on a 12-year-old girl. Isn't - sonnyslady - 10-Oct-2012 5:12 PM
- That is an act of hatred, violence and racism. - LM - 10-Oct-2012 5:16 PM
- Or this one - Holman - 10-Oct-2012 4:36 PM
- Perhaps they're referring to these kinds of incidents. - PD - 10-Oct-2012 4:09 PM
- No... what she said is that - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 10:51 AM
- Re: OMG - WHAT?!?!?!?! - PD - 10-Oct-2012 10:40 AM
- And this is what I find distracting. - Antigone - 10-Oct-2012 10:56 AM
- The reporter wasn't bullied, that was a case of her needing a thicker skin. - LM - 10-Oct-2012 9:10 AM
Absolutely. Bitchy, mean and rude are NOT automatically bullying but people try - Jeja - 10-Oct-2012 8:24 AM
- Perhaps habitual behavior is what makes the difference? - margcool - 10-Oct-2012 3:44 PM
- ICAM. EOM - cap - 10-Oct-2012 10:42 AM
IA. I think that lack of power and the utter helplessness one feels as a victim - ladyday - 10-Oct-2012 5:52 AM
- Yes. The inability to stop this kind of persecution is... - Antigone - 10-Oct-2012 9:57 AM
In the TV anchor's case though she was hired in part on her looks. It's not - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 6:49 AM
hasn't she always been overweight and if so then she was - Sheri - 10-Oct-2012 8:15 AM
- I don't think that she has always been overweight. She's worked there - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 11:14 AM
Despite what you are implying here, overweight does not equal ugly, so - TGBelievesInMagic - 10-Oct-2012 6:56 AM
- She's photogenic. I doubt that she would have been hired if she wasn't - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 11:12 AM
- hasn't she always been overweight and if so then she was - Sheri - 10-Oct-2012 8:15 AM
- Yes. I was bullied in high school. - JerseyGirl - 10-Oct-2012 5:50 AM
- Yes, it's way overused. And IMO our society doesn't emphasize manners - carolann - 10-Oct-2012 5:36 AM
I don't know. - gforce - 10-Oct-2012 5:28 AM
- I agree. When you think you have a right to be nasty to someone you are a bully. - margcool - 10-Oct-2012 7:08 AM
Yes. We experienced this on SZ not too long ago. - ollie - 10-Oct-2012 4:57 AM
- Like a big jerk wrestler tearing up a little kid's sign. - margcool - 10-Oct-2012 7:09 AM
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