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several days or for people who stay at the houses of family members or friends when on vacation...

Who is responsible for feeding guests?

As I mentioned here once before, Sis and BIL are coming up for the Great Eclipse Viewing of 2024. I didn't learn until a couple days ago that they're actually going to be here in the area Thursday night; they managed to snag a not terribly overpriced hotel room for Thursday and Friday night but will be staying with Dad and me Saturday night through Tuesday morning. And as always, my sister is complicating the whole thing with talk of going here and doing that and blah blah blah. Not to mention the entire "get a new mattress for Hubby and me for the few days we'll be there"...but that's another (angle of the) story.

I'm already dreading having to *really* clean the house. Dad and I both aren't exactly slobs but we're also not exactly great at keeping the house clean. Or at least "guest" clean...anyways, there's also the issue of how much are we expected to feed Sis and BIL? If at all? Neither of them are the type that will expect us to provide them with breakfast, lunch and dinner, and I'm sure there will be meals eaten out. I'm planning on telling both of them that if they can find it in the kitchen (or the freezer in the garage), they can have it, and I'm sure Sis will either arrive with groceries or will want to go somewhere to get groceries, and because she likes to cook, I'm betting she'll even offer to make at least one meal for Dad and me. But should I be making a big meal for them?

It's still something Dad and I discuss from time to time...once, when Mom was still alive, Sis announced a visit up here with BIL. The day they were to arrive, Mom went all out and had a big meal waiting on the kitchen table...Sis and BIL walked in with half eaten subs from their favorite sandwich shop. Another time, Sis angered (and possibly alienated forever) a local friend by making plans to have dinner with her at the friend's house. This time, it was Sis, BIL and their two kids. So the friend put out a spread and...Sis' family was a no-show. They "got caught up with something else" and IIRC, Sis didn't even call/text to apologize until well after dinner time. This is basically how Sis rolls on vacation (and I think not only is BIL cool with it, I think he sometimes instigates it).

So I'm thinking I'll throw a pork butt in the crockpot Friday night or Saturday morning and have shredded pork in the fridge for sandwiches or tacos or just as is. And maybe I'll make a pot of chili...that's one of Dad's and my favorites and seems to stay good in the fridge for quite a while (I usually freeze some for later). But I'm curious...if you host a lot, what do you do for your guests who stay several days? If you ARE the guest who stays several days, what are your expectations when it comes to meals?