recovering from a major accident and miscarriage and on top of that dealing with the death of the child. what she plans to do in her recovering, emotional devastation over the death of the child AND postpartum hormones (and possible depression)is not someone who is in full control of her emotions or faculties.
If the baby existed, I could see how this all played out and if she did actually go through with keeping the baby. But she (and the audience) don't know how she would have handled it if the baby had been born alive.
My point is that I can take sides over two sisters fighting over a baby. But two sisters in extreme emotional distress over the baby's death fighting over what WOULD have have happened has much lower stakes.
It has already been decided who gets the baby -- NITHER OF THEM DO! So while I can understand and sympathize for what both sisters are going through, and understand they don't have the energy to behave fairly or logically ... but the writers and characters are fighting over what they all think was going to happen. That characters say they would have done doesn't pack the same dramatic punch of seeing what actually does happen and how they handle it.
Karen L.