It's truly the little things. I know how many siblings you have and all about your dad and your work history, but I don't know what random hobbies you might have or what clubs you belongs to in HS, so we all might have these weird pockets of knowledge no one knows about.
These days, I still read, and I still love to travel. I also have a bow and arrow that I occasionally shoot (nothing fancy; it's literally the second cheapest bow you can buy at Walmart and is advertised as a kid's bow), plus I occasionally like to color pages from coloring books for adults (I use markers), and I do a little pour painting and I roll paper strips into beads and make jewelry--mostly bracelets--that I've tentatively started selling at craft shows, with very limited success. I wasn't really a joiner in high school so no clubs, but I did play clarinet in both symphony and marching band, plus I usually played in the band for the school musicals, and I was in the honors society but that was mostly just a piece of paper, no activities 😁
It is a low bar, but I think we all have those for weddings. Every dull speech I sit through, I think of the one where my friend's dad got boo'ed for saying "well, this is a day I never thought would come."
Ooof. File that under "things you should never say at a wedding", even if it was said innocuously .
Yes, yes, YES! One of my guilty pleasures is reading the Reddit forum "Am I the a-hole?" A surprising number of stories center around a bride's unrealistic expectations (guests wearing certain colors and/or outfits, bridesmaids having to pay for their dress AND a destination bachelorette party AND plane tickets/lodging for a destination wedding, etc.). And like you and chloe, I've watched Four Weddings and cringed at some of the expectations, and expenses, the brides have.
The ones that get me are the brides who want someone to dye their hair.
Or cut their hair. Worse for me are the brides who demand their bridesmaid not use a much needed walking aide or wear the glasses they can't see without.
But I also think people are often dying on hills they do not need to die on, all the time. And those posts really seem to have entrenched certain ideas about weddings. Like the wearing white thing or announcing your pregnancy at the wedding -- or proposing at the wedding! These are all bad moves. Don't do them. But sometimes a bride has actually asked someone to do something and then people have this RABID reaction and the bride is like "I chose the white and blue dress! She's my bridesmaid!" or "I wanted my sister to announce her pregnancy!" "We gave the best man permission to propose to the MOH!" -- and once people have decided to be mad, they stay mad. Some people just cannot redirect once they are told they don't have a reason to be mad. It's wild.
ITA!
