with the non-binary preference of using they/them. It conflicts with my English degree training, plus it occasionally confuses me when I'm reading a story about someone who's non-binary and they're referred to as they/them/their, etc. But I absolutely WILL use the pronouns you wish me to use, even as a part of me wishes that ze/zhey/zhem was more the standard for non-binary folks.
And please, somebody needs to come up with a gender neutral term of respect because although I wasn't raised in the South, I was raised by a Southern(ish) mama and a daddy who was in the military, so "sir" and "ma'am" roll naturally off my tongue.
